Most dual-income families are running three financial plans — retirement, education, the house — without ever doing the unified math. The sequence matters more than the amounts. Getting it wrong compounds quietly for years.
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The sequencing that maximizes lifetime wealth: (1) capture 401(k) employer match in full — this is a guaranteed 50–100% return; (2) build 3–6 month emergency fund; (3) pay off high-interest debt; (4) max IRAs; (5) max 401(k)s; (6) 529 college savings; (7) taxable investing or additional housing savings. Home purchase competes with steps 5–7. Most dual-income families fund 529s before completing step 5, which costs them significantly over a 30-year horizon.
The standard formula is 10–12× gross income per earner. For dual-income households with children, model each income independently: if one disappears, the surviving spouse needs to maintain household expenses, fund education, and eventually retire on a single income. Each earner typically needs 10–15× their individual salary in term coverage. Whole life insurance is rarely appropriate at this stage; term is almost always the right product.
T. Rowe Price benchmarks: 1× combined household income saved by 30; 3× by 40; 6× by 50; 9× by 60. For a household earning $190K combined, that's $570K in retirement accounts by 40. The key error: most couples measure individual accounts rather than combined household net worth, and exclude equity, home equity, and other assets from the calculation. Your wealth-to-income ratio — total net worth divided by annual household income — is the single most predictive metric.